So we had premarital counseling with our pastor before we got married, in which we went through a variety of Bible verses about marriage and the roles of husband and wife. I think it helped a lot for us knowing what to expect once we were married. The focus wasn't on specific duties, it was on the importance of compassion, patience, love, and understanding.
I saw you say in another post that you're a christian. Is your husband also?
If so, I think he would do well to remind himself what it means to be a christian man, upholding the fruits of the spirit.
He is only stressing you more with expectations. And honestly, 38lbs in 8.5 years is not bad at all lol
As for you, can you swim? Swimming laps is great exercise for us. But it also a time to relax. The water supports and sooths us, so we can let our body and mind go while swimming at a gentle pace. It's a little bit of "Me time."
The reason I would want you to worry about your weight is because of the effect it has on your joints. The more you gain, the harder it is on your back/hips/knees/ankles and the more pain and more difficulty you'll have walking. So finding some gentle exercise isn't ankles bad idea. Also, watching what you eat. It's not a bad idea to get on a health kick while pregnant, as those healthy foods will benefit the baby.
But as for the balance... you've just got to make things routine.
I work one FT job and one PRN job. Making exercise and sleep part of my routine makes it not seem so tedious.
As far as cooking and cleaning, the majority of people who work full time (healthy or not) clean on the weekends. That's normal. It's not normal to clean everyday. And cooking? Well if you're going to add exercise to your busy life, you've got to give up something. So unless he wants you to be a stay at home mom or never exercise, he will have to get over the lack of cooking lol.
So yes, you can work on somethings but he also needs to have realistic expectations. And he can help clean too.
My husband does the trash and the laundry, I do the rest. It's a good balance because the laundry would usually take the most time and I wouldn't get anything else done.
I clean on the weekend, not during the week.
During the week, all I do is pick things up (throw trash away, throw husbands shoes that are in the middle of the floor to where they belong, etc) as I go if I pass by something easy and simple.
I'm not an teacher, but I'm a nurse working 48 to 60 hours per week.
You've got to find your balance, keep an easy routine.
As far as work...I have no advice as I have the same issues. Lol